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Where You AT?

junior castI missed a week of the Military Mondays carnival…and hopefully haven’t completely lost the momentum we were building!

I’m sure you will forgive me once you hear about the drill gremlins, kissing cousins of the deployment gremlins.

Last time it was the thousands of wasps in my dining room.

The first minor catastrophe was my computer screen breaking.  I had a little bit of drama getting that fixed but the main upshot is that getting my work done, let alone blogging, became a bit more complicated.

The far more interesting, and more difficult, incident was when the six year old son of a friend fell off a play structure directly onto my 20 month old baby.

He’s fine.  Breathe.

He was a little upset when it happened but being the mellow little dude he is, he quickly calmed down but indicated that his “kneeeee” hurt.  Instead of taking him to urgent care, I hung out a while longer at the play date, buckled the kids into the car, checked Military Review on my blackberry to see if my husband’s latest article had published (yes!), called the hubby who was on his way to drill to let him know and did not mention the accident (you know you are a military spouse when…), and then took the kids home.

The next day, my baby still wasn’t walking but was pulling himself up. So–and here’s where I win the mother of the year award–NOT! –I took him and his sister to swim lessons.  He proceeded to splash around quite happily.

On the way back, I swung by the doctor’s office because it was Friday and I figured that if it got worse over the weekend, I would have to go to the emergency room.  She concured it was probably just a sprain but, hey, just for laughs, let’s send you over to radiology to make sure it is nothing worse.

To cut a long story less long…eight hours and three co-pays later my darling is wearing a cast for the next three weeks while he heals his “toddler fracture”.

Don’t worry–he’s giggling and running around on the thing like a little peg-legged pirate, trying to earn a matching one on the other leg.

Happy Military Spouse Appreciation Day!

MySpouseGold2I didn’t know…or I would have baked us a cake!

Or, rather, bought us a cake from the ice cream parlor down the street.

So, do you feel appreciated now?

Presidential Proclamation–Military Spouse Appreciation Day

A PROCLAMATION

When Americans answer the call to serve in our Armed Forces, a sacred trust is forged. Our men and women in uniform take on the duty of protecting us all, and their spouses and families also help shoulder this important responsibility. As we mark Military Spouse Appreciation Day, we reaffirm our steadfast commitment to supporting and honoring the husbands, wives, and loved ones of our Nation’s servicemembers.

At the heart of our Armed Forces, servicemembers’ spouses keep our military families on track. They balance family life, military life, and their careers all while supporting other military families and giving back to their communities. Many have served in uniform themselves and, understanding the obligations involved, can provide unparalleled support. They are pillars of strength in their families, often celebrating their children’s life milestones while the other parent is away.

Military spouses also care for our wounded warriors and honor the memory of our Nation’s fallen heroes, including their own loved ones. They impact countless lives on military bases and in schools, places of worship, and neighborhoods across our Nation. Their contributions help protect our freedom by strengthening our communities and our servicemembers.

My Administration is committed to improving opportunities and quality of life for these brave spouses and families who know the separation and stress of war. We are increasing servicemembers’ compensation as well as funding for better housing, job training, counseling, outreach, and support for spouses and their families. We are also expanding our ground forces to reduce the strain of repeated deployments, and to give servicemembers more time with their loved ones.

There are many ways for each of us to show our appreciation for military spouses. Working through community based organizations, workplaces, schools, and places of worship, we can help them support their families, establish or build a career, and address the unique challenges they face.

I am inspired every day by our men and women in uniform and their families. They are America’s greatest military asset, and my Administration is committed to fulfilling our obligations to them. Today, let us honor the spouses and families who support our servicemembers and, in doing so, help defend our Nation and preserve our liberty.

NOW, THEREFORE, I, BARACK OBAMA, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and the laws of the United States, do hereby proclaim May 7, 2010, as Military Spouse Appreciation Day. I call upon the people of the United States to honor military spouses with appropriate ceremonies and activities.

IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this sixth day of May, in the year of our Lord two thousand ten, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and thirty-fourth.

BARACK OBAMA

Military Mondays Carnival – April 26

Welcome to the SIXTH Military Mondays Carnival on Army Wives’ Lives!

Oceans  Between Us Susan Wiggs BOOK COVERAND…we have a PRIZE for the next two carnivals, courtesy of Susan Wiggs, author of The Ocean Between Us!

About The Ocean Between Us:

Steve Bennett is a perfect navy officer with a perfect navy family, and he’s confident that his world is just the way it should be. But his son wants to be an artist instead of attending the U.S. Naval Academy, and his stalwart and capable wife of 20 years, Grace, is tired of being the perfect navy wife. She wants her own home, and she wants her own career. She’s feeling altogether unsettled, but nothing is more unsettling than the secret her husband has hidden from her their entire marriage. Nothing, that is, until the accident on the carrier.

  • One (1) Grand Prize winner will receive a $50 VISA gift card AND a copy of The Ocean Between Us.
  • Two (2) additional winners will receive a copy of the book!

This contest will run for two weeks, and each week, you may earn up to one entry for each of the following, for both weeks, for a total of up to FOUR ENTRIES:

  • Entry Type 1: Add a link in the linky box below to a post where you discuss military family issues (please see carnival rules below*) and then, if you wish to enter this contest, please also leave me a comment.
  • Entry Type 2: Visit at least one of the links in the carnival, leave the blogger a comment about their post (not just, “hi, I’m here”) and then come back here and leave me a separate comment telling me where you visited and commented.

Details and Disclaimers: Contest ends May 2, 11:59 PM EST. Prize offered by Susan Wiggs, author of The Ocean Between Us. ARV of book is $14.95. Open to U.S. mailing addresses, only. This blog and its author(s) have received no compensation. You do not have to be a blogger to enter–anyone can enter by the comment method. Winner will be chosen at random from qualifying entries.

A reminder: April is MONTH OF THE MILITARY CHILD! So, if you need any help thinking about what to post, consider our smallest heroes.

*** The only Military Mondays Blog Carnival rules are: ***

  • In the “Link Title” field, please place the title of your post, plus the name of your blog and/or your name. (e.g. “Grow Where You Are Planted @Army Wives’ Lives”)
  • In the “URL” field, please place the direct “permalink” to the specific post, not to your main page of your blog. (e.g. “http://armywiveslives.com/2009/10/coping-during-deployment/” not “http://ArmyWivesLives.com”)
  • Your post must be relevant to the military family experience. I also retain the right to delete links to any posts that contain hate speech, plans to commit illegal acts, or anything that violates the spirit of this carnival or U.S. law.

Please make this a post from sometime in the last month or so.

Need a reminder that the carnival is up? Subscribe to Army Wives Lives by Email and you will get a digest of posts, no more than once a day (probably more like 1-3 times a week) when I post.

Want MORE Army Wives’ Lives? Fan the facebook page!

Want to share more of the FABULOUSNESS that is you? I accept guest posts and post interviews!

Want to share the carnival? Please feel free to grab the code for the button if you are interested:

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Without further ado, let’s get to the posts–I hope you’ll participate and visit these wonderful Military Family Bloggers–and feel free to check out previous editions for more great Military Family Posts!

The National Guard Drill Blues

yellow ribbonSince my baby left me,
To head upstate to drill,
I’ve found that I have
just about about had my fill…

We’ve looked at military family life from the active duty and National Guard perspectives.  And there are definitely pros and cons to each.  On Active Duty, my husband had one job–Army officer.  Now he has at least two, serving as an Assistant District Attorney by “day” and a National Guard Field Artillery Commander by night (or at least one weekend a month, two weeks a year).  My concentration is similarly divided as I am a full time stay-at-home mom who also squeezes in part-time work as an Educational Consultant and Writer somewhere around the margins.  This creates a sort of frenetic activity and tight scheduling around our household that seems more suited to a war room.

On Active Duty, our medical co-pays were next to nil because we lived near a post with a military treatment facility. Now, taking two kids to a check-up practically requires a credit-check.  And I hear that our county health care plan is one of the “Cadillac” plans.  Because, you know, county employees and their families…we be rollin’ in the Benjamins.

Of course, we have a lot more predictability to my husband’s temporary absences.  Generally we have a head’s up before field exercises and there is some understanding that my husband has a life outside of the military.

In terms of family support, I have been blessed with good FRGs on both sides–but a “good” FRG in the National Guard still means we really only see other family members twice a year.

And even though the military exerted more influence over our lives on Active Duty, it was at least a constant influence.  With the National Guard, just as we get settled into a routine, off my husband goes again…answering the call of duty.

And when it comes down to it, that’s the type of man I married, and the one who is a caring husband and involved father.

Overall, we love being a military family and are very proud of our soldier–on active duty and in the National Guard–and wouldn’t have it any other way.

How about you? What has been your experience with the demands and benefits of being part of a military family?

Military Mondays Carnival – April 19 Edition

Welcome to the FIFTH Military Mondays Carnival on Army Wives’ Lives!

Oceans  Between Us Susan Wiggs BOOK COVERAND…we have a PRIZE for the next two carnivals, courtesy of Susan Wiggs, author of The Ocean Between Us!

***To enter the week of April 26 through May 2, please see the April 26th, Sixth Edition of the Military Mondays Carnival***

About The Ocean Between Us:

Steve Bennett is a perfect navy officer with a perfect navy family, and he’s confident that his world is just the way it should be. But his son wants to be an artist instead of attending the U.S. Naval Academy, and his stalwart and capable wife of 20 years, Grace, is tired of being the perfect navy wife. She wants her own home, and she wants her own career. She’s feeling altogether unsettled, but nothing is more unsettling than the secret her husband has hidden from her their entire marriage. Nothing, that is, until the accident on the carrier.

  • One (1) Grand Prize winner will receive a $50 VISA gift card AND a copy of The Ocean Between Us.
  • Two (2) additional winners will receive a copy of the book!

This contest will run for two weeks, and each week, you may earn up to one entry for each of the following, for both weeks, for a total of up to FOUR ENTRIES:

  • Entry Type 1: Add a link in the linky box below to a post where you discuss military family issues (please see carnival rules below*) and then, if you wish to enter this contest, please also leave me a comment.
  • Entry Type 2: Visit at least one of the links in the carnival, leave the blogger a comment about their post (not just, “hi, I’m here”) and then come back here and leave me a separate comment telling me where you visited and commented.

Details and Disclaimers: Contest ends May 2, 11:59 PM EST.  Prize offered by Susan Wiggs, author of The Ocean Between Us. ARV of book is $14.95.  Open to U.S. mailing addresses, only. This blog and its author(s) have received no compensation. You do not have to be a blogger to enter–anyone can enter by the comment method. Winner will be chosen at random from qualifying entries.

A reminder: April is MONTH OF THE MILITARY CHILD! So, if you need any help thinking about what to post, consider our smallest heroes.

*** The only Military Mondays Blog Carnival rules are: ***

  • In the “Link Title” field, please place the title of your post, plus the name of your blog and/or your name. (e.g. “Grow Where You Are Planted @Army Wives’ Lives”)
  • In the “URL” field, please place the direct “permalink” to the specific post, not to your main page of your blog. (e.g. “http://armywiveslives.com/2009/10/coping-during-deployment/” not “http://ArmyWivesLives.com”)
  • Your post must be relevant to the military family experience. I also retain the right to delete links to any posts that contain hate speech, plans to commit illegal acts, or anything that violates the spirit of this carnival or U.S. law.

Please make this a post from sometime in the last month or so.

Need a reminder that the carnival is up? Subscribe to Army Wives Lives by Email and you will get a digest of posts, no more than once a day (probably more like 1-3 times a week) when I post.

Want MORE Army Wives’ Lives? Fan the facebook page!

Want to share more of the FABULOUSNESS that is you? I accept guest posts and post interviews!

Want to share the carnival? Please feel free to grab the code for the button if you are interested:

military-mondays
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Without further ado, let’s get to the posts–I hope you’ll participate and visit these wonderful Military Family Bloggers–and feel free to check out previous editions for more great Military Family Posts!

Wearing Civilian Honors to a Military Ball (Ask Molly)

molly-pitcher-awardWe military folk, even some of us family members, enjoy a good protocol question. When my husband first joined the military, I recall devouring the details in The Army Wife’s Handbook, only to learn with great disappointment that I really would not be needing those calling cards. But at least we have military balls in all of their tradition and glory.

A reader who has received two civilian honors for her service to her husband’s units asked this question about wearing her awards:

Dear Molly,

My husband and I have an Army ball to attend on Friday and I have a question about wearing two awards that I received at my last post. I received both the Molly Pitcher and Commander’s Award for Civil Service awards at our final ball on our last post. That night I wore both around my neck but remember seeing prior recipients wearing their Molly awards pinned to their dress with a red ribbon behind. First do I have to wear my awards? I would like to wear them but don’t know protocol on wearing awards. Is it proper or acceptable to wear my specific awards on my wrist? I am wearing a strapless dress on Friday and it’s beaded at the top. I am not sure how to affix them to this particular dress. If not on my wrist, can I wear them pinned at the waste? Lastly, the Molly Pitcher came on a thin red ribbon and Commanders award is on a thick blue ribbon. When affixing them to a dress, is the size of the ribbon important?

Huh.  I was stumped!

I knew that civilians never have to wear anything but as to how to wear two awards, I hadn’t a clue.  I know that one usually only wears one honor around one’s neck, that being the higher award.  I also knew that I had both a chain and a brass ribbon-style pin for my Molly Pitcher award, which could be pinned to the bodice of a dress.  As to the rest though, I needed to call in a higher authority.

So, I wrote to the Field Artillery Association and received this response:

Unlike military members, there is not a requirement for civilians to wear awards.

The Commander’s Award for Civilian Service is only affixed to a ribbon to avoid the awkwardness of the presenter attempting to pin it on a lady. If she opts to wear it; the smaller lapel pin (which should have come with the larger medal) may work best.

If it were me, I would forego wearing both awards to the Army Ball (most of us do) with the exception of wearing the Molly Pitcher award to balls/ceremonies wherein the award will be presented to others (e.g., St. Barbara’s Balls.) If she desires to wear both awards, it is certainly appropriate, but not the norm.

I hope this helps. The medal/lapel can be worn anywhere on your dress.

So there you have it!

Interview with Michy from Ocipura.com

Michy, who blogs at Ocipura.com, shares with us her life as an Army wife and a Christian and some of her varied interests–from food and recipes to psychology!

michy 1

What topics do you write about on your blog?

I write about all sorts of things. My Christian faith, Avon, life as an Army wife, food and recipes, relationships… I’ve been known to even post about a simple do-it-yourself project, as well. I write about the things I’m interested in, the things I know about.

Share a favorite post of yours:

One of my favorite posts is entitled Don’t Stop Arguing, which is about my advice to couples to keep arguing, but do it right, because “A complete lack of arguments usually indicates a shallow relationship.”

Tell us a little bit about your military spouse journey.

michy 2My husband and I have been best friends for ten years, having met first in junior high. We did not start dating until after he had already been deployed to Iraq twice. When we started dating, he transferred to Fort Hood, which was closer to me, and we got married about a year later (October ’09)! As a new military spouse, it’s hard to come to terms with the fact that my husband has three years left on his contract, meaning that I’m sure to have to go through a deployment or two, if not more, with him. It will be a completely different experience for us now that we are married! As of now, he has been serving in the US Army for five years.

What are the best and most challenging parts of the Military Spouse Experience?

The challenge of the Army is to remain flexible. The Army is constantly changing its mind about schedules, plans, and everything else, and it’s a struggle to roll with the punches. As I wrote recently in my blog, my husband’s leave packet did not get approved until about a week before our wedding. Though we had payments put down on the wedding and honeymoon, we didn’t know for sure that he would be able to even show up until the day his packet finally got approved!

If someone you care about was about to marry a military servicemember, what one piece of advice would you give?

If one of my friends were on the verge of marrying into the military, I would advise them first, to be flexible, and second, to rely on God. There are many times that I’ve had to remind myself that the parts of being an Army wife that are too tough for me to handle are the parts that I need to let God handle. He can get me through what I don’t have the strength to get through on my own.

Interview with Casey from The Ever Changing Life of a Military Wife

Casey, who blogs at The Ever-Changing Life of a Military Wife, shares with us how she keeps balance when life is a moving target.

ever changing lifeWhat topics do you write about on your blog?

I’m a mish mash of teaching, travel, politics, pouting, military life, and my never ending love for Texas. If it happens in my life, it goes on the blog! I try to keep it “real” rather than branded. While I have much respect for the niche blogs, I view my blog as a diary rather than a website. So, when you come, expect the unexpected!

Share a favorite post of yours:

I think this post, Life as a Military Wife, really speaks to how different our lives really are. Sometimes it’s hard for others to understand our feelings, our acronyms, and our general way of life, so this post gives a glimpse into just how different it is.

Tell us a little bit about your military spouse journey.

I am married to an Air Force officer, and have been for almost 4 years. He has been active duty for almost 3 years. We are currently stationed overseas and waiting for our next assignment, which will most likely be overseas as well. Luckily, we have only had long TDYs and no deployments. However, we are expecting a deployment in the near future, but hopefully we can get by with a 6 month!

What are the best parts of being a military spouse?

For me, the best part has been the opportunity to see the world. In the last 3 years we have been able to visit 20 countries, a feat I never thought would have been possible. The Air Force has opened up the world to us, and has given us so many opportunities to see new places. With these experiences, and the diverse nature of the military, I feel like I have been able to broaden my horizons significantly.

To what extent have blogging and social networking affected the military spouse experience?

The mil-spouse blog community has been a great support system throughout this journey. I have met new people and gained some real life friends along the way. It has been a blessing to have friends around the world that have been through it all already, and can offer great advice. Honestly, I feel like the mil-spouse blogging community has enabled me to feel prepared for a possible deployment. I have seen so many make it through the process, that I know I can do it as well. I know that no matter where I might be stationed, I am still connected to other people who understand!

If someone you care about was about to marry a military servicemember, what one piece of advice would you give?

Be flexible! We have no control over assignments, duty hours, deployments, or just about anything else! The title of “dependent” may not be politically correct, but it is certainly accurate. You have to be able to put yourself aside and learn to go with the flow of your husband’s career. Can you still have a career? Sure! Can you still have input? Sure! However, the life of a military spouse is anything but typical. The more flexible and patient you are, the more successful you will be!

I wrote a post of advice just for those moving overseas which can be very helpful.

Military Mondays March 8 Edition

Welcome to the first Military Mondays Carnival on Army Wives’ Lives!

Here’s hoping this carnival helps us find great Military Family Bloggers and interesting posts about the Military Family Experience!

The only rules are:

  • In the “Link Title” field, please place the title of your post, plus the name of your blog and/or your name. (e.g. “Grow Where You Are Planted @Army Wives’ Lives”)
  • In the “URL” field, please place the direct “permalink” to the specific post, not to your main page of your blog. (e.g. “http://armywiveslives.com/2009/10/coping-during-deployment/” not “http://ArmyWivesLives.com”)
  • Your post must be relevant to the military family experience. I also retain the right to delete links to any posts that contain hate speech, plans to commit illegal acts, or anything that violates the spirit of this carnival or U.S. law.

For this first installment, this can be a post from any time. For future carnivals, I request that it be a more recent post.

Want to share the carnival?  Please feel free to grab the code for the button if you are interested:

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Without further ado, let’s get to the posts–I hope you’ll participate!

Announcing a Military Family Carnival

military-mondaysAs my readers may know, I am trying to make this site as much of a resource for the Military Spouse community as I can.  I am conducting interviews of Military Spouse Bloggers, taking guest posts, working on creating a forum, and now I am going to put a linky up every Monday.

If you are not yet familiar with carnivals and linkies, essentially you will enter the name and URL of your post.

The post can be any post you have written about the military family experience. For the first carnival, the post can be recent or from your archives.  After that it would be great if the posts were fairly recent.

All military family members will be welcome–spouses, parents, close friends–as long as your post is about the experience of being a member of this military family.

What do you think?

Hope to see you on Monday!