Dear Molly,

I’m 17 years old about to graduate. My boyfriend is also about to graduate and seriously thinking about the military.
I don’t really approve of it. I think that if he loves me he should want to see me and be around me more than anything. He would sacrifice everything for me. Am I right? I know he wants to do this but he says I’m the most important thing. If that’s so why would he want to go?
For the last two years, we see each other on weekends …

A reader writes (details deleted to protect identities):
Dear Molly,
My husband is deployed and due to his infidelity, we are divorcing. I cannot save or keep up bills right now. He is helping with rent but not much beyond that.
I have severe medical problems that cause anxiety and panic attacks.
Is there anything I can do to have the Army help get me back home? I plan to meet with the commander.
Dear Fellow MilSpouse
First, as a fellow wife, woman, and person, I am sorry to hear about your troubles.
As a lawyer’s …

A Reader Asks:
Hi, I saw your blog you posted a while ago about being an army wife. I was looking on google to find information on family day and graduation. My fiance is in Ft Benning right now at basic. When do you first get to see them? While you are sitting in the stands or before that? And then after they are dismissed on family day, how long do we get to spend with them. Also, do they get to spend the night with us, or do they have …

A very nice military mom (and future military mother in law) asked for some advice about a good book for a new military spouse. I responded and also asked my readers for their suggestions, too. On Monday, I’ll have a review and giveaway of The Homefront Club: The Hardheaded Woman’s Guide to Raising a Military Family.
Here are the results of the reader poll (with 22 votes):

The Army Wife Handbook: A Complete Social Guide (13%)
Today’s Military Wife: Meeting the Challenges of Service Life (18%)
Married to the Military: …

Hello Molly,
My son is a marine. He is recently engaged and going on his second deployment but the first for his new fiance. Do you have any book recommendations? I would like to get her a book to help from a girlfriend/spouse perspective and a journal for Christmas. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Thank your husband for his service and Thank you for serving all the important support lines.
Hello! What a thoughtful gift and a great question.
I’m assuming (a poor thing to do, I know) that you want some …

A reader posted this comment:
Does anyone have any advice? My brother is due to deploy overseas within a year and it is causing problems in his marriage. His family (young wife and 2 year old daughter) and my family moved half way across the country two years ago to forge a better life away from the West coast. Our father also lives here. We are all within minutes of each other. Now that he is due to deploy, his wife wants to move back in with her mother out west. …