Past posts suggest other wives may not want to move b/c of a career decision-in my case it’s the opposite. I have been laid off now for almost a year so my job isn’t an issue. The only issue I am having is that our daughter will be in the 10th grade this September and my assumption w/ the Army is that you move from place to place & don’t know how that would affect her (she doesn’t know he is going to enlist yet) My biggest fear is that we won’t be allowed to go w/ him & that we will be apart. Can you please give me some idea of what could happen to newly enlisted private who has a wife and child…

A reader who has received two civilian honors for her service to her husband’s units asked a question about wearing her awards.

I was stumped! So, I wrote to the Field Artillery Association and received this response…

A reader asks:

My husband hasn’t signed any papers yet but will be enlisting in the Army very soon. I am trying to be the supportive wife because I know this is something he’s always wanted to do, but I am scared for him and myself. Here is the problem: I am not going to be following him to wherever he gets stationed.

I know we can make it work but I am worried about being alone all the time…

Is it common for the wives not to follow their husbands?

Whether you are moving to a new country, an isolated posting, or your servicemember is deploying, I advise you to “grow where you are planted”.

Get involved, get busy. Or, as Tim Gunn says, “make it work”.

Reach out to other military spouses. Find deployment support groups, try the FRG, volunteer on post. Most posts have a community center where you will find postings for groups, classes, seminars and events.

Hey Molly my husband is looking into a career In the army, I don’t like the idea because he will never be home and could always be deployed and could die. I am 19 he is 26 years old and we have a 5 month old daughter I didn’t not sign up to be a military wife I don’t like the idea of moving every other year and not being able to see him everyday and then spending long time periods away from him I guess my question is what is being a military spouse really like….

A Reader Asks:
Happy Veterans’ Day! I just found your blog and I was wondering if there are directions to making a military family binder, something that would include military records, important numbers, deployments, LES, or anything you can think of. My husband is an Army Reservist and I think this could be very helpful.
First of all, Happy Veterans’ Day to you, too! Thank you and your husband for serving!
You did not mention if your husband has been activated in anticipation of a deployment. Regardless, there are …

Dear Molly,

I’m 17 years old about to graduate. My boyfriend is also about to graduate and seriously thinking about the military.
I don’t really approve of it. I think that if he loves me he should want to see me and be around me more than anything. He would sacrifice everything for me. Am I right? I know he wants to do this but he says I’m the most important thing. If that’s so why would he want to go?
For the last two years, we see each other on weekends …

A reader writes (details deleted to protect identities):
Dear Molly,
My husband is deployed and due to his infidelity, we are divorcing. I cannot save or keep up bills right now. He is helping with rent but not much beyond that.
I have severe medical problems that cause anxiety and panic attacks.
Is there anything I can do to have the Army help get me back home? I plan to meet with the commander.
Dear Fellow MilSpouse
First, as a fellow wife, woman, and person, I am sorry to hear about your troubles.
As a lawyer’s …

A Reader Asks:
Hi, I saw your blog you posted a while ago about being an army wife. I was looking on google to find information on family day and graduation. My fiance is in Ft Benning right now at basic. When do you first get to see them? While you are sitting in the stands or before that? And then after they are dismissed on family day, how long do we get to spend with them. Also, do they get to spend the night with us, or do they have …

A very nice military mom (and future military mother in law) asked for some advice about a good book for a new military spouse. I responded and also asked my readers for their suggestions, too. On Monday, I’ll have a review and giveaway of The Homefront Club: The Hardheaded Woman’s Guide to Raising a Military Family.
Here are the results of the reader poll (with 22 votes):

The Army Wife Handbook: A Complete Social Guide (13%)
Today’s Military Wife: Meeting the Challenges of Service Life (18%)
Married to the Military: …