Comments on: HELP! My Husband is Joining the Army and I Don’t Like It! http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/ Military Spouse News and Views Fri, 03 Feb 2012 03:52:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Hollynemy http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-63885 Hollynemy Wed, 11 Jan 2012 12:54:22 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-63885 Many thanks for the awesome online site. I enjoy your current style and design. When it comes to precisely how People in america watch President Obama commencing the new calendar year, there appears to be very little heart of Auld Lang Syne. Rather, based on the fresh California Whispers study, a lot of voters aren’t negelecting the things they detest with regards to Barak and want him away from office. Within our Fresh Year’s ballot, while asked what reports event that they worry many with regards to 2012, Americans with a perimeter regarding two-to-one mentioned Obama’s reelection­. Just Sixteen percent mentioned that they fear the Democrat won’t get an extra time period, whilst 33 per cent explained they will concern 4 a lot more a long time <a href="http://www.solidwriters.com/dissertation_advice" rel="nofollow">Dissertation Advice</a>. Many thanks for the awesome online site. I enjoy your current style and design.
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]]> By: Alex http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-32608 Alex Thu, 08 Sep 2011 18:35:15 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-32608 I would think the best thing to do is to talk about it. It is the only way to solve anything in my op., yet it is not very easy to do most of the time (depeding on the person). Now, my personal opinion on this matter may not matter to you so i will not say it unless you want to, but for general advice i think maybe to rethink what is good for both of you is a good idea.Get to a middle point were both agree to maybe have to put up with some things on each one's behalf but also were communication and both of your benefits may flourish. Think nothing of the past, organize a little of your future but in my opinion savour the present more than anything (without it being unproductive towards your future). Im carrying away here, but thats what i say. :) Hope you can be happy, cause taht's really all its about I would think the best thing to do is to talk about it. It is the only way to solve anything in my op., yet it is not very easy to do most of the time (depeding on the person). Now, my personal opinion on this matter may not matter to you so i will not say it unless you want to, but for general advice i think maybe to rethink what is good for both of you is a good idea.Get to a middle point were both agree to maybe have to put up with some things on each one’s behalf but also were communication and both of your benefits may flourish. Think nothing of the past, organize a little of your future but in my opinion savour the present more than anything (without it being unproductive towards your future). Im carrying away here, but thats what i say. :)

Hope you can be happy, cause taht’s really all its about

]]> By: Lucille http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-23730 Lucille Fri, 08 Jul 2011 21:30:34 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-23730 What about those of us who were married BEFORE their spouse decided to join? I've been with my husband since 01 and he joined last year, despite me not liking it (devistated by his choice is a better description). Don't get me wrong- I love and support him but we both wonder what this is going to do to me, and us. I feel like what I want and need doesn't matter anymore- it's all about him and the Army. Here's the kicker- he wants to be in for another 12 years after this enlistment. I know this is what he believes to be his calling... his dream.. and I'd never want to make him compromise on his dream.. but my dream is to spend my life with him.. actually spend it with him.. not on the phone, or skype, or 3 months out of the last 18.. when I think about spending the next 14 years living this way.. I can't stand it.. How do I make it better? How do I not hate the Army? How do I not resent him for leaving? What about those of us who were married BEFORE their spouse decided to join? I’ve been with my husband since 01 and he joined last year, despite me not liking it (devistated by his choice is a better description). Don’t get me wrong- I love and support him but we both wonder what this is going to do to me, and us. I feel like what I want and need doesn’t matter anymore- it’s all about him and the Army. Here’s the kicker- he wants to be in for another 12 years after this enlistment. I know this is what he believes to be his calling… his dream.. and I’d never want to make him compromise on his dream.. but my dream is to spend my life with him.. actually spend it with him.. not on the phone, or skype, or 3 months out of the last 18.. when I think about spending the next 14 years living this way.. I can’t stand it.. How do I make it better? How do I not hate the Army? How do I not resent him for leaving?

]]> By: Liz http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-15347 Liz Mon, 04 Apr 2011 18:30:32 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-15347 As the daughter of a Navy officer, I can tell you firsthand some of the hardships you might face being married to or part of a military family. Deployments can be terrifying. If your husband does join the military, there are fantastic resources for wives and military family members who are opposed to the war and deployment as well as the lack of benefits for veterans who return home from the war. Military Families Speak Out, is a great resource at mfso.org God Bless our troops and bless the families they leave behind. As the daughter of a Navy officer, I can tell you firsthand some of the hardships you might face being married to or part of a military family.
Deployments can be terrifying. If your husband does join the military, there are fantastic resources for wives and military family members who are opposed to the war and deployment as well as the lack of benefits for veterans who return home from the war. Military Families Speak Out, is a great resource at mfso.org
God Bless our troops and bless the families they leave behind.

]]> By: Angela http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-10596 Angela Wed, 22 Dec 2010 21:47:04 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-10596 My husband is planning to join the Army as well. We have two kids, 9 & 3. I am 110% supportive of his decision but I have so many questions and I know from all my research that it will be some time before I have answers to many of them ;) I am curious about what to do with our house though. We have no major plans to return to this area when he is finished whether that is in four or twenty years. I am concerned however that in the current housing market we will not be able to sell. Thanks for this blog, I am so glad I found it. My husband is planning to join the Army as well. We have two kids, 9 & 3. I am 110% supportive of his decision but I have so many questions and I know from all my research that it will be some time before I have answers to many of them ;)

I am curious about what to do with our house though. We have no major plans to return to this area when he is finished whether that is in four or twenty years. I am concerned however that in the current housing market we will not be able to sell.

Thanks for this blog, I am so glad I found it.

]]> By: Treha http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-7161 Treha Wed, 25 Aug 2010 19:23:07 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-7161 Hi, I'm, 37 and my hUsband is 35. We have been married for 4 years and have an 18 month old daughter. Last week my Husband told me he was interested in joining the army and he met with a recruiter this morning. I know he has always wanted to serve in the military, but chose college instead. He has been working in finance for the last 10 years and has hated every job he has had. I guess it's his time to follow his dream and make a difference at the same time. I really support that, and I want to fully support him to embrace this new adventure together, but I have some concerns. I would really appreciate any suggestions or words of advice. Well, we have a house and a mortgage, and car leases, and bills. I am a stay at home Mom, but would be happy working if I knew I had great child care available while my husband serves. I guess I just need to know that it's all doable. When should we put the house on the market? How do I research a MOS and stations? and what is military housing like? Ok I guess i have a lot of questions. I would probably do better talking to someone one on one, but I don't know anyone who is or has been an Army wife. Sorry this is such a frantic post. This all became very real for me this afternoon and my head is spinning. Hi, I’m, 37 and my hUsband is 35. We have been married for 4 years and have an 18 month old daughter. Last week my Husband told me he was interested in joining the army and he met with a recruiter this morning. I know he has always wanted to serve in the military, but chose college instead. He has been working in finance for the last 10 years and has hated every job he has had. I guess it’s his time to follow his dream and make a difference at the same time. I really support that, and I want to fully support him to embrace this new adventure together, but I have some concerns. I would really appreciate any suggestions or words of advice.

Well, we have a house and a mortgage, and car leases, and bills. I am a stay at home Mom, but would be happy working if I knew I had great child care available while my husband serves. I guess I just need to know that it’s all doable. When should we put the house on the market? How do I research a MOS and stations? and what is military housing like?

Ok I guess i have a lot of questions. I would probably do better talking to someone one on one, but I don’t know anyone who is or has been an Army wife.

Sorry this is such a frantic post. This all became very real for me this afternoon and my head is spinning.

]]> By: Jenna http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-5613 Jenna Sun, 18 Apr 2010 18:45:28 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-5613 The Army life is what you make of it. If you go in informed, well-researched and with a good attitude, it will help. Get out of the house, get involved in the community, and develop a network of (offline) friends. Get to learn the ranks, the command structure, and who the chain of command is. Knowing this is going to make talking to your spouse SO much easier. Keep out of the politics, out of the drama. Ensure when you get to a new post that you explore the community. Find good places ot eat, good hairdressers, the gym, and the local chamber of commerce. Doing this will make you feel like you're a part of the community, not just an outsider. Once you know you're moving, go read the area's website, history, and sign up for the events calendar. There is no other profession out there that will give you exactly what you give it. If you want the best ride of your life, and you do the work to facilitate that, you're going to get it. If you want the ride of your life, but dont do the work, you're going to get some, but not much. If you go in with a crap attitude and sit at home, complaining about how much you hate the army, you're going to be miserable. I've run the gamut from military child, to soldier to spouse to civilian employee and it's been the ride of my life. BUT I wasnt lazy about it. If you arent, either, it will be an amazing experience. 30 The Army life is what you make of it. If you go in informed, well-researched and with a good attitude, it will help. Get out of the house, get involved in the community, and develop a network of (offline) friends. Get to learn the ranks, the command structure, and who the chain of command is. Knowing this is going to make talking to your spouse SO much easier. Keep out of the politics, out of the drama. Ensure when you get to a new post that you explore the community. Find good places ot eat, good hairdressers, the gym, and the local chamber of commerce. Doing this will make you feel like you’re a part of the community, not just an outsider. Once you know you’re moving, go read the area’s website, history, and sign up for the events calendar. There is no other profession out there that will give you exactly what you give it. If you want the best ride of your life, and you do the work to facilitate that, you’re going to get it. If you want the ride of your life, but dont do the work, you’re going to get some, but not much. If you go in with a crap attitude and sit at home, complaining about how much you hate the army, you’re going to be miserable. I’ve run the gamut from military child, to soldier to spouse to civilian employee and it’s been the ride of my life. BUT I wasnt lazy about it. If you arent, either, it will be an amazing experience.

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]]> By: sarah mcfalls http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-5194 sarah mcfalls Fri, 26 Mar 2010 06:30:20 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-5194 Hello. I am turning 19 on tuesday the 30th and my fiance is in the Army National Guard. I wasnt on board about the whole thing when he told me that he wanted to sign up! I was scared, and frighten! But i knew that it was the right thing to do for him and our life together. If he joins the national guard depending on what his MOS is, he will probley be stationed home. Basic and AIT will go by before you know it! My fiance will be home in 4 weeks and I already cant believe it. And once he leaves, you will fall in love with him all over again, its the best feeling in the whole world. And ya there will be times when you dont hear from him for a couple weeks, and all your getting is letters, and trust me thats the worst feeling in the world, but you have to remember that he isnt doing this for him he would be doing to for you and your daughter and to make yours and her life better. Its hard to hear at first but trust me its worth it in the end! :D Sarah Hello.

I am turning 19 on tuesday the 30th and my fiance is in the Army National Guard. I wasnt on board about the whole thing when he told me that he wanted to sign up! I was scared, and frighten! But i knew that it was the right thing to do for him and our life together. If he joins the national guard depending on what his MOS is, he will probley be stationed home. Basic and AIT will go by before you know it! My fiance will be home in 4 weeks and I already cant believe it. And once he leaves, you will fall in love with him all over again, its the best feeling in the whole world. And ya there will be times when you dont hear from him for a couple weeks, and all your getting is letters, and trust me thats the worst feeling in the world, but you have to remember that he isnt doing this for him he would be doing to for you and your daughter and to make yours and her life better. Its hard to hear at first but trust me its worth it in the end!

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Sarah

]]> By: Jen Jen http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-5070 Jen Jen Tue, 16 Mar 2010 03:36:07 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-5070 Being a military wife is not for the faint of heart...or for very needy people who cannot handle being wihout your spouse for very long periods of time. I learned that very quickly, and after going through a pregnancy alone, child birth, building a home, deployment, working full time not to mention the stress of handling mommy and daddy issues alone I still would not go back and change anything. If this is the sacrifice that I make I cannot imagine how my hubby feels being away from it all without choice. God Bless our troops and bless the families they leave behind. Being a military wife is not for the faint of heart…or for very needy people who cannot handle being wihout your spouse for very long periods of time. I learned that very quickly, and after going through a pregnancy alone, child birth, building a home, deployment, working full time not to mention the stress of handling mommy and daddy issues alone I still would not go back and change anything. If this is the sacrifice that I make I cannot imagine how my hubby feels being away from it all without choice. God Bless our troops and bless the families they leave behind.

]]> By: Erica Faye http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-3782 Erica Faye Sun, 22 Nov 2009 22:56:11 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-3782 My boyfriend of two years recently joined the Army.. I'm 18, so close to your age... I hated the thought of it at first!! But once he talked to a Recruiter he was unbelievably happy.. He has been the happiest I've ever seen him after he made this decision. I guess I would look at that, is your husband happy, can you tell a difference?! That helped me a lot, because I know how happy he is, it makes me happy too... I know it's very very hard, but you have to put your own needs to the wayside sometimes. You want to show him you're supportive in every decision he makes. And in the end, it will only make your relationship stronger!! My boyfriend of two years recently joined the Army.. I’m 18, so close to your age… I hated the thought of it at first!! But once he talked to a Recruiter he was unbelievably happy.. He has been the happiest I’ve ever seen him after he made this decision. I guess I would look at that, is your husband happy, can you tell a difference?! That helped me a lot, because I know how happy he is, it makes me happy too… I know it’s very very hard, but you have to put your own needs to the wayside sometimes. You want to show him you’re supportive in every decision he makes. And in the end, it will only make your relationship stronger!!

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