Comments on: HELP! My Husband is Joining the Army and I Don’t Like It! http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/ Military Spouse News and Views Wed, 25 Aug 2010 19:23:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Treha http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-7161 Treha Wed, 25 Aug 2010 19:23:07 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-7161 Hi, I'm, 37 and my hUsband is 35. We have been married for 4 years and have an 18 month old daughter. Last week my Husband told me he was interested in joining the army and he met with a recruiter this morning. I know he has always wanted to serve in the military, but chose college instead. He has been working in finance for the last 10 years and has hated every job he has had. I guess it's his time to follow his dream and make a difference at the same time. I really support that, and I want to fully support him to embrace this new adventure together, but I have some concerns. I would really appreciate any suggestions or words of advice. Well, we have a house and a mortgage, and car leases, and bills. I am a stay at home Mom, but would be happy working if I knew I had great child care available while my husband serves. I guess I just need to know that it's all doable. When should we put the house on the market? How do I research a MOS and stations? and what is military housing like? Ok I guess i have a lot of questions. I would probably do better talking to someone one on one, but I don't know anyone who is or has been an Army wife. Sorry this is such a frantic post. This all became very real for me this afternoon and my head is spinning. Hi, I’m, 37 and my hUsband is 35. We have been married for 4 years and have an 18 month old daughter. Last week my Husband told me he was interested in joining the army and he met with a recruiter this morning. I know he has always wanted to serve in the military, but chose college instead. He has been working in finance for the last 10 years and has hated every job he has had. I guess it’s his time to follow his dream and make a difference at the same time. I really support that, and I want to fully support him to embrace this new adventure together, but I have some concerns. I would really appreciate any suggestions or words of advice.

Well, we have a house and a mortgage, and car leases, and bills. I am a stay at home Mom, but would be happy working if I knew I had great child care available while my husband serves. I guess I just need to know that it’s all doable. When should we put the house on the market? How do I research a MOS and stations? and what is military housing like?

Ok I guess i have a lot of questions. I would probably do better talking to someone one on one, but I don’t know anyone who is or has been an Army wife.

Sorry this is such a frantic post. This all became very real for me this afternoon and my head is spinning.

]]> By: Jenna http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-5613 Jenna Sun, 18 Apr 2010 18:45:28 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-5613 The Army life is what you make of it. If you go in informed, well-researched and with a good attitude, it will help. Get out of the house, get involved in the community, and develop a network of (offline) friends. Get to learn the ranks, the command structure, and who the chain of command is. Knowing this is going to make talking to your spouse SO much easier. Keep out of the politics, out of the drama. Ensure when you get to a new post that you explore the community. Find good places ot eat, good hairdressers, the gym, and the local chamber of commerce. Doing this will make you feel like you're a part of the community, not just an outsider. Once you know you're moving, go read the area's website, history, and sign up for the events calendar. There is no other profession out there that will give you exactly what you give it. If you want the best ride of your life, and you do the work to facilitate that, you're going to get it. If you want the ride of your life, but dont do the work, you're going to get some, but not much. If you go in with a crap attitude and sit at home, complaining about how much you hate the army, you're going to be miserable. I've run the gamut from military child, to soldier to spouse to civilian employee and it's been the ride of my life. BUT I wasnt lazy about it. If you arent, either, it will be an amazing experience. 30 The Army life is what you make of it. If you go in informed, well-researched and with a good attitude, it will help. Get out of the house, get involved in the community, and develop a network of (offline) friends. Get to learn the ranks, the command structure, and who the chain of command is. Knowing this is going to make talking to your spouse SO much easier. Keep out of the politics, out of the drama. Ensure when you get to a new post that you explore the community. Find good places ot eat, good hairdressers, the gym, and the local chamber of commerce. Doing this will make you feel like you’re a part of the community, not just an outsider. Once you know you’re moving, go read the area’s website, history, and sign up for the events calendar. There is no other profession out there that will give you exactly what you give it. If you want the best ride of your life, and you do the work to facilitate that, you’re going to get it. If you want the ride of your life, but dont do the work, you’re going to get some, but not much. If you go in with a crap attitude and sit at home, complaining about how much you hate the army, you’re going to be miserable. I’ve run the gamut from military child, to soldier to spouse to civilian employee and it’s been the ride of my life. BUT I wasnt lazy about it. If you arent, either, it will be an amazing experience.

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]]> By: sarah mcfalls http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-5194 sarah mcfalls Fri, 26 Mar 2010 06:30:20 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-5194 Hello. I am turning 19 on tuesday the 30th and my fiance is in the Army National Guard. I wasnt on board about the whole thing when he told me that he wanted to sign up! I was scared, and frighten! But i knew that it was the right thing to do for him and our life together. If he joins the national guard depending on what his MOS is, he will probley be stationed home. Basic and AIT will go by before you know it! My fiance will be home in 4 weeks and I already cant believe it. And once he leaves, you will fall in love with him all over again, its the best feeling in the whole world. And ya there will be times when you dont hear from him for a couple weeks, and all your getting is letters, and trust me thats the worst feeling in the world, but you have to remember that he isnt doing this for him he would be doing to for you and your daughter and to make yours and her life better. Its hard to hear at first but trust me its worth it in the end! :D Sarah Hello.

I am turning 19 on tuesday the 30th and my fiance is in the Army National Guard. I wasnt on board about the whole thing when he told me that he wanted to sign up! I was scared, and frighten! But i knew that it was the right thing to do for him and our life together. If he joins the national guard depending on what his MOS is, he will probley be stationed home. Basic and AIT will go by before you know it! My fiance will be home in 4 weeks and I already cant believe it. And once he leaves, you will fall in love with him all over again, its the best feeling in the whole world. And ya there will be times when you dont hear from him for a couple weeks, and all your getting is letters, and trust me thats the worst feeling in the world, but you have to remember that he isnt doing this for him he would be doing to for you and your daughter and to make yours and her life better. Its hard to hear at first but trust me its worth it in the end!

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Sarah

]]> By: Jen Jen http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-5070 Jen Jen Tue, 16 Mar 2010 03:36:07 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-5070 Being a military wife is not for the faint of heart...or for very needy people who cannot handle being wihout your spouse for very long periods of time. I learned that very quickly, and after going through a pregnancy alone, child birth, building a home, deployment, working full time not to mention the stress of handling mommy and daddy issues alone I still would not go back and change anything. If this is the sacrifice that I make I cannot imagine how my hubby feels being away from it all without choice. God Bless our troops and bless the families they leave behind. Being a military wife is not for the faint of heart…or for very needy people who cannot handle being wihout your spouse for very long periods of time. I learned that very quickly, and after going through a pregnancy alone, child birth, building a home, deployment, working full time not to mention the stress of handling mommy and daddy issues alone I still would not go back and change anything. If this is the sacrifice that I make I cannot imagine how my hubby feels being away from it all without choice. God Bless our troops and bless the families they leave behind.

]]> By: Erica Faye http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-3782 Erica Faye Sun, 22 Nov 2009 22:56:11 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-3782 My boyfriend of two years recently joined the Army.. I'm 18, so close to your age... I hated the thought of it at first!! But once he talked to a Recruiter he was unbelievably happy.. He has been the happiest I've ever seen him after he made this decision. I guess I would look at that, is your husband happy, can you tell a difference?! That helped me a lot, because I know how happy he is, it makes me happy too... I know it's very very hard, but you have to put your own needs to the wayside sometimes. You want to show him you're supportive in every decision he makes. And in the end, it will only make your relationship stronger!! My boyfriend of two years recently joined the Army.. I’m 18, so close to your age… I hated the thought of it at first!! But once he talked to a Recruiter he was unbelievably happy.. He has been the happiest I’ve ever seen him after he made this decision. I guess I would look at that, is your husband happy, can you tell a difference?! That helped me a lot, because I know how happy he is, it makes me happy too… I know it’s very very hard, but you have to put your own needs to the wayside sometimes. You want to show him you’re supportive in every decision he makes. And in the end, it will only make your relationship stronger!!

]]> By: Deb http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-3774 Deb Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:48:25 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-3774 being married to a soldier means being married to the Army, yeah you should definitely do your research.. this is not an easy lifestyle.. if your not a tough person you will become one. you should however look into his MOS that will really tell you how long or how often he will be gone! it is never easy being away from your husband but I can say that you slowly get used to it all, you almost have no choice. being married to a soldier means being married to the Army, yeah you should definitely do your research.. this is not an easy lifestyle.. if your not a tough person you will become one.

you should however look into his MOS that will really tell you how long or how often he will be gone! it is never easy being away from your husband but I can say that you slowly get used to it all, you almost have no choice.

]]> By: Kristen McLaughlin http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-3723 Kristen McLaughlin Thu, 29 Oct 2009 12:40:18 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-3723 I am 25 and my husband is 27 and just lost his job and is now joining the army. We have 3 kids all under the age of 6. How hard on the kids is it going to be when he leaves? How do I sleep at night without him by my side? I am driving myself crazy thinking about everything that could go wrong.... It's hard we have never been apart in that past 8 years. Are there programs for my kids if they have questions and I can't answer them??? Please help he... I am 25 and my husband is 27 and just lost his job and is now joining the army. We have 3 kids all under the age of 6. How hard on the kids is it going to be when he leaves? How do I sleep at night without him by my side? I am driving myself crazy thinking about everything that could go wrong…. It’s hard we have never been apart in that past 8 years. Are there programs for my kids if they have questions and I can’t answer them??? Please help he…

]]> By: Aimee http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-3719 Aimee Thu, 29 Oct 2009 12:27:29 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-3719 Hey all. I'm a new military wife currently stationed at Ft. Rucker, AL. In the last year, I have been through my husband going to Basic, Warrant Officer School, moving to a new state, and now flight school. I never thought I would do ok being a military wife and to be honest...sometimes I do question myself. I know the best way to make it is with support so if anyone has questions that i can answer or just needs someone to talk too...check out my blog or email me. I'd love to meet new wives! Hey all. I’m a new military wife currently stationed at Ft. Rucker, AL. In the last year, I have been through my husband going to Basic, Warrant Officer School, moving to a new state, and now flight school. I never thought I would do ok being a military wife and to be honest…sometimes I do question myself. I know the best way to make it is with support so if anyone has questions that i can answer or just needs someone to talk too…check out my blog or email me. I’d love to meet new wives!

]]> By: christy clark http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-44 christy clark Sun, 20 Sep 2009 17:39:56 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-44 hey my name is christy and my husband is also looking into a career in the army we have two kids 3yrs and 1yr old. most women are omg i dont wanna be an army wife but im not like that i kinda wanna be but i wanna know what to except i wanna know what im going up for i know that i want get to see him as much but i think its totally amazing that he wants to go and protect our country our world fight for our freedom it makes me proud of him that he wants to protect his family and others familys so if someone can please let me know what to expect i will surely thank you so thank you and have a good day your friend christy hey my name is christy and my husband is also looking into a career in the army we have two kids 3yrs and 1yr old. most women are omg i dont wanna be an army wife but im not like that i kinda wanna be but i wanna know what to except i wanna know what im going up for i know that i want get to see him as much but i think its totally amazing that he wants to go and protect our country our world fight for our freedom it makes me proud of him that he wants to protect his family and others familys so if someone can please let me know what to expect i will surely thank you so thank you and have a good day your friend christy

]]> By: nicole http://armywiveslives.com/2009/04/help-my-husband-is-joining-army-and-i/comment-page-1/#comment-3097 nicole Wed, 16 Sep 2009 10:01:24 +0000 http://armywiveslives.com/?p=297#comment-3097 you recently answered a question "HELP! my husband is joining the army and i dont like it". in your answer you advised her to do research and figure out if there are limited posts for his mos. how do you research if there are limited posts for an mos? i know my husbands job (hes in ait right now) and i would like to try and figure out if there are limited posts for his mos. could you please help me and give me more specific advice on how to find that out (without bothering his recruiter)? thank you a loving army wife you recently answered a question “HELP! my husband is joining the army and i dont like it”. in your answer you advised her to do research and figure out if there are limited posts for his mos.
how do you research if there are limited posts for an mos? i know my husbands job (hes in ait right now) and i would like to try and figure out if there are limited posts for his mos.
could you please help me and give me more specific advice on how to find that out (without bothering his recruiter)?
thank you
a loving army wife

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