An Army Officer Wife’s First Day

Posted by Candace on Jun 11, 2008 | 195 Comments

Please welcome guest blogger Phyllis Zimbler Miller, author of Mrs. Lieutenant, who has a second novel, Mrs. Lieutenant in Europe, in progress.

Sharon Gold’s First Official Day as a Mrs. Lieutenant

Robert reemerges from the bedroom in his uniform, carrying his uniform hat, and stands in front of her for inspection. She wants to say “good luck.” The words stick in her throat – don’t these words imply the opposite is feared? She says: “You look terrific.”

And he does look terrific if you like men in uniforms.

He kisses her good-bye at the front door. She stands on the balcony and watches him down the stairs to the car. He waves and mouths “I love you.” Then he’s gone.

She is without wheels and all alone.

In my novel MRS. LIEUTENANT: A SHARON GOLD NOVEL, this is the first day that Robert Gold reports for Armor Officers Basic (AOB) training at Ft. Knox, Kentucky, in May of 1970. Sharon is left in a strange new place – Muldraugh, Kentucky (not even mail delivery!) – with no friends, no car and no place to go.

Does this sound familiar to many of you? And while the book is fiction, this description is how I felt when my husband of six months reported to the first day of Armor Officers Basic.

I was unprepared to be a military spouse. Of course both my father and my husband’s father had served in World War II. But that war was different. There weren’t anti-war protesters chanting “Hell, no, we won’t go!” – or two years earlier “Hey, hey, LBJ, how many kids did you kill today?” – on college campuses throughout the country. The first draft lottery had been only months before in December, and young men getting draft notices were fleeing to Canada.

Although my husband had told me on our third date that he was going to Vietnam, and although one of his best high school friends (who had volunteered for the army) had been killed in Vietnam, I had my head stuck in the sand like an ostrich. I neither watched the Vietnam casualty reports on the nightly news nor read the newspaper accounts of the combat actions.

And what’s more, here at Ft. Knox I was totally alone because the army hadn’t said whether ROTC second lieutenants reporting for AOB could bring their wives. I refused to stay home, and with great difficulty we had found decent off-base housing. Now nine weeks of isolation stretched before me.

Then my husband came home with an invitation for a function for the wives of his AOB class (see this invite at www.mrslieutenant.com in the section of original army documents). I attended the first function, where I learned that the army had a training program for AOB wives complete with a graduation luncheon. And that I needed to buy the $1 book “Mrs. Lieutenant” by Mary Preston Gross to learn how to be a proper officer’s wife.

Thus began my initiation into being a military spouse. And the plus side was that I started making friends, shared a car with another AOB wife, and had places to go – even if only (after Memorial Day) to the officers country club to work on my tan at the swimming pool!


Visit www.mrslieutenant.com to find out more about Sharon Gold’s fictional adventures as Mrs. Lieutenant.

WIN IT: Phyllis Zimbler Miller is offering a signed copy of her novel, Mrs. Lieutenant, to one reader. All readers with US, US military, and Canadian addresses are eligible.

  1. To enter, just leave a comment here by 9pm EST June 30, either about this post (for example, tell us about your own “first day” as a spouse or soldier) or about something you saw on www.mrslieutenant.com. Comments that simply say, “win” or “hello” will not be eligible.
  2. Click HERE to find out about another way to win from YourMilitary.com.
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  • charline s said:

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  • Louise Brouillette said:

    I was never a soldier, but I know that I was nervous on my son’s first day of soldiering!

  • Louise Brouillette said:

    I was never a soldier, but I know that I was nervous on my son’s first day of soldiering!

  • Louise Brouillette said:

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  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    Do please pass along this contest announcement. YourMilitary.com and I want as many people as possible to submit stories. And we plan for this to be the first of an annual event! And thanks for leaving comments about my book.

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    Do please pass along this contest announcement. YourMilitary.com and I want as many people as possible to submit stories. And we plan for this to be the first of an annual event! And thanks for leaving comments about my book.

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    Do please pass along this contest announcement. YourMilitary.com and I want as many people as possible to submit stories. And we plan for this to be the first of an annual event! And thanks for leaving comments about my book.

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  • Cindi said:

    Hello, I have heard a lot of what this author says from my Mother-in-Law. My father-in-law is retired from the Air Force. My husband is their oldest child and remembers all of the moves he had to make. He dealt with it by being a loner and his younger brother made friends very quickly! When we got married, I asked my husband if he wanted to enlist, but he did not because he didn’t deal with the lifestyle very well. I am proud that my dad is turning 90 and a veteran of WWII. Thanks, Cindi

  • Cindi said:

    Hello, I have heard a lot of what this author says from my Mother-in-Law. My father-in-law is retired from the Air Force. My husband is their oldest child and remembers all of the moves he had to make. He dealt with it by being a loner and his younger brother made friends very quickly! When we got married, I asked my husband if he wanted to enlist, but he did not because he didn’t deal with the lifestyle very well. I am proud that my dad is turning 90 and a veteran of WWII. Thanks, Cindi

  • Cindi said:

    Hello, I have heard a lot of what this author says from my Mother-in-Law. My father-in-law is retired from the Air Force. My husband is their oldest child and remembers all of the moves he had to make. He dealt with it by being a loner and his younger brother made friends very quickly! When we got married, I asked my husband if he wanted to enlist, but he did not because he didn’t deal with the lifestyle very well. I am proud that my dad is turning 90 and a veteran of WWII. Thanks, Cindi

  • Jennifer M said:

    I liked reading the original army documents on the website. Very interesting to an “outsider.”

  • Jennifer M said:

    I liked reading the original army documents on the website. Very interesting to an “outsider.”

  • Jennifer M said:

    I liked reading the original army documents on the website. Very interesting to an “outsider.”

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    Jennifer — I’m happy you looked at the original army documents on http://www.mrslieutenant.com. Did you also download the first four chapters for free? And did you look at the information on organizations that support military families today?

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    Jennifer — I’m happy you looked at the original army documents on http://www.mrslieutenant.com. Did you also download the first four chapters for free? And did you look at the information on organizations that support military families today?

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    Jennifer — I’m happy you looked at the original army documents on http://www.mrslieutenant.com. Did you also download the first four chapters for free? And did you look at the information on organizations that support military families today?

  • Nancy Brown said:

    Mrs. Lieutenant is a must read! Good luck to the one who will be the winner of the signed copy.

    I would like to encourage every military spouse to enter the 1st Annual Tell-Your-Own-Story essay contest in connection with Lifetime TV’s ARMY WIVES! Lifetime has provided fabulous tote bags and the first season on DVD to the top winners, and this is just a few of the prizes. Click on the link above to enter the contest or visit YourMilitary.com and click on the Entry Form link. Winning essays will be published on both YourMilitary.com and YourMilitarySpace.com. Good luck to all!

  • Nancy Brown said:

    Mrs. Lieutenant is a must read! Good luck to the one who will be the winner of the signed copy.

    I would like to encourage every military spouse to enter the 1st Annual Tell-Your-Own-Story essay contest in connection with Lifetime TV’s ARMY WIVES! Lifetime has provided fabulous tote bags and the first season on DVD to the top winners, and this is just a few of the prizes. Click on the link above to enter the contest or visit YourMilitary.com and click on the Entry Form link. Winning essays will be published on both YourMilitary.com and YourMilitarySpace.com. Good luck to all!

  • Nancy Brown said:

    Mrs. Lieutenant is a must read! Good luck to the one who will be the winner of the signed copy.

    I would like to encourage every military spouse to enter the 1st Annual Tell-Your-Own-Story essay contest in connection with Lifetime TV’s ARMY WIVES! Lifetime has provided fabulous tote bags and the first season on DVD to the top winners, and this is just a few of the prizes. Click on the link above to enter the contest or visit YourMilitary.com and click on the Entry Form link. Winning essays will be published on both YourMilitary.com and YourMilitarySpace.com. Good luck to all!

  • Margay said:

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  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    With help from such events as this contest, the tour is going well.

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    With help from such events as this contest, the tour is going well.

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  • MA. said:

    My first time driving my husband’s car alone through the gate to post as a young officer’s wife, I nervously tried to return the salute when saluted by the sentry on duty!!!

  • MA. said:

    My first time driving my husband’s car alone through the gate to post as a young officer’s wife, I nervously tried to return the salute when saluted by the sentry on duty!!!

  • MA. said:

    My first time driving my husband’s car alone through the gate to post as a young officer’s wife, I nervously tried to return the salute when saluted by the sentry on duty!!!

  • Kimberly said:

    I find the entire site very informative and interesting. I especially enjoy the information on organizations that support military families. As an American, I always thought I was doing what I could do to support our troops – but its more than that – its the families behind those troops that need our support as well. When I read, Life as I know it, or Missing my Soldier and etc – it hits home. Thank youo

  • Kimberly said:

    I find the entire site very informative and interesting. I especially enjoy the information on organizations that support military families. As an American, I always thought I was doing what I could do to support our troops – but its more than that – its the families behind those troops that need our support as well. When I read, Life as I know it, or Missing my Soldier and etc – it hits home. Thank youo

  • Kimberly said:

    I find the entire site very informative and interesting. I especially enjoy the information on organizations that support military families. As an American, I always thought I was doing what I could do to support our troops – but its more than that – its the families behind those troops that need our support as well. When I read, Life as I know it, or Missing my Soldier and etc – it hits home. Thank youo

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    I very much appreciate your comment, Kimberly, about the families behind the troops that need our support. In Tanya Biank’s nonfiction book ARMY WIVES, which is the basis for Lifetime TV’s series, she describes how hard it often especially is for the families of low-ranking enlisted men.

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    I very much appreciate your comment, Kimberly, about the families behind the troops that need our support. In Tanya Biank’s nonfiction book ARMY WIVES, which is the basis for Lifetime TV’s series, she describes how hard it often especially is for the families of low-ranking enlisted men.

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    I very much appreciate your comment, Kimberly, about the families behind the troops that need our support. In Tanya Biank’s nonfiction book ARMY WIVES, which is the basis for Lifetime TV’s series, she describes how hard it often especially is for the families of low-ranking enlisted men.

  • Dawn said:

    It’s hard to explain my first day as a spouse of an airman. When was it exactly…the moment he enlisted, the day he left for basic training, when we moved into our first military house? Was it the day he went from enlisted to an officer, or will it be in July when he deploysfor the first time. Everyday is a day of firsts and I am happy to have a first everyday as an Air Force Wife.

    Thanks for the great give away.

  • Dawn said:

    It’s hard to explain my first day as a spouse of an airman. When was it exactly…the moment he enlisted, the day he left for basic training, when we moved into our first military house? Was it the day he went from enlisted to an officer, or will it be in July when he deploysfor the first time. Everyday is a day of firsts and I am happy to have a first everyday as an Air Force Wife.

    Thanks for the great give away.

  • Dawn said:

    It’s hard to explain my first day as a spouse of an airman. When was it exactly…the moment he enlisted, the day he left for basic training, when we moved into our first military house? Was it the day he went from enlisted to an officer, or will it be in July when he deploysfor the first time. Everyday is a day of firsts and I am happy to have a first everyday as an Air Force Wife.

    Thanks for the great give away.

  • Dawn said:

    It’s hard to explain my first day as a spouse of an airman. When was it exactly…the moment he enlisted, the day he left for basic training, when we moved into our first military house? Was it the day he went from enlisted to an officer, or will it be in July when he deploysfor the first time. Everyday is a day of firsts and I am happy to have a first everyday as an Air Force Wife.

    Sorry I wrote down my email as my homepage.

  • Dawn said:

    It’s hard to explain my first day as a spouse of an airman. When was it exactly…the moment he enlisted, the day he left for basic training, when we moved into our first military house? Was it the day he went from enlisted to an officer, or will it be in July when he deploysfor the first time. Everyday is a day of firsts and I am happy to have a first everyday as an Air Force Wife.

    Sorry I wrote down my email as my homepage.

  • Dawn said:

    It’s hard to explain my first day as a spouse of an airman. When was it exactly…the moment he enlisted, the day he left for basic training, when we moved into our first military house? Was it the day he went from enlisted to an officer, or will it be in July when he deploysfor the first time. Everyday is a day of firsts and I am happy to have a first everyday as an Air Force Wife.

    Sorry I wrote down my email as my homepage.

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    Dawn, that’s a very moving comment that you left. I hope you’re going to enter the “Tell-Your-Own-Story” at http://www.yourmilitary.com. I could see you expanding on this comment to write a “story” for the contest — deadline June 29.

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    Dawn, that’s a very moving comment that you left. I hope you’re going to enter the “Tell-Your-Own-Story” at http://www.yourmilitary.com. I could see you expanding on this comment to write a “story” for the contest — deadline June 29.

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    Dawn, that’s a very moving comment that you left. I hope you’re going to enter the “Tell-Your-Own-Story” at http://www.yourmilitary.com. I could see you expanding on this comment to write a “story” for the contest — deadline June 29.

  • Sue Farrell said:

    I married a PFC during the Vietnam was–and I was a war protester!! Did I have a lot of adjusting to do–I watched the career wives for clues on how to act and what to do–and I survived my adjustment nicely.

  • Sue Farrell said:

    I married a PFC during the Vietnam was–and I was a war protester!! Did I have a lot of adjusting to do–I watched the career wives for clues on how to act and what to do–and I survived my adjustment nicely.

  • Sue Farrell said:

    I married a PFC during the Vietnam was–and I was a war protester!! Did I have a lot of adjusting to do–I watched the career wives for clues on how to act and what to do–and I survived my adjustment nicely.

  • Tammy said:

    I have never heard of cell phone for soldiers before, what a great program! And to think it was started by two young teens, what an accomplishment

  • Tammy said:

    I have never heard of cell phone for soldiers before, what a great program! And to think it was started by two young teens, what an accomplishment

  • Tammy said:

    I have never heard of cell phone for soldiers before, what a great program! And to think it was started by two young teens, what an accomplishment

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    Sue –
    Your comment interests me very much because I wrote Sharon as an anti-war protester who fell in love with an ROTC cadet. Did you not have a book to tell you how to act? In 1970 I had the $1 booklet “Mrs. Lieutenant,” which had the rules for an officer’s wife.

    Tammy –
    Glad you learned about cell phone for soldiers. In Amazon book orders, you get a mailing envelope to use to mail an old cell phone to this project. So next time you order from Amazon …

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    Sue –
    Your comment interests me very much because I wrote Sharon as an anti-war protester who fell in love with an ROTC cadet. Did you not have a book to tell you how to act? In 1970 I had the $1 booklet “Mrs. Lieutenant,” which had the rules for an officer’s wife.

    Tammy –
    Glad you learned about cell phone for soldiers. In Amazon book orders, you get a mailing envelope to use to mail an old cell phone to this project. So next time you order from Amazon …

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    Sue –
    Your comment interests me very much because I wrote Sharon as an anti-war protester who fell in love with an ROTC cadet. Did you not have a book to tell you how to act? In 1970 I had the $1 booklet “Mrs. Lieutenant,” which had the rules for an officer’s wife.

    Tammy –
    Glad you learned about cell phone for soldiers. In Amazon book orders, you get a mailing envelope to use to mail an old cell phone to this project. So next time you order from Amazon …

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  • Linda Pinto said:

    I was newly married, pregnant and without a car. It was a very long walk to get to a bus stop and I was not feeling well at all. I felt so stuck. My husband worked long hours and had no time to take me anywhere. I felt almost like I was abandoned. Yuk!

  • Linda Pinto said:

    I was newly married, pregnant and without a car. It was a very long walk to get to a bus stop and I was not feeling well at all. I felt so stuck. My husband worked long hours and had no time to take me anywhere. I felt almost like I was abandoned. Yuk!

  • Linda Pinto said:

    I was newly married, pregnant and without a car. It was a very long walk to get to a bus stop and I was not feeling well at all. I felt so stuck. My husband worked long hours and had no time to take me anywhere. I felt almost like I was abandoned. Yuk!

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  • Cindy F said:

    Sounds like a great read. My sister used to be an Army wife. She had her first baby in a German hospital, not the military hospital, she was having a hard time understanding them. AAHHH!!

  • Cindy F said:

    Sounds like a great read. My sister used to be an Army wife. She had her first baby in a German hospital, not the military hospital, she was having a hard time understanding them. AAHHH!!

  • Cindy F said:

    Sounds like a great read. My sister used to be an Army wife. She had her first baby in a German hospital, not the military hospital, she was having a hard time understanding them. AAHHH!!

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  • Jessica Maurer said:

    This book looks like it will be a must-read for me. My first day as an Army Wife was scary. I had never been to Texas before & did not know my way around Fort Hood, plus I knew no one. I mean, it’s the biggest military base in the world! I had to get an ID, stickers for my car, get medical stuff set up – It was so nerve wracking.

    I’ve been here for over 3 years now & know this place like the back of my hand. :)
    Thanks for the contest!!

  • Jessica Maurer said:

    This book looks like it will be a must-read for me. My first day as an Army Wife was scary. I had never been to Texas before & did not know my way around Fort Hood, plus I knew no one. I mean, it’s the biggest military base in the world! I had to get an ID, stickers for my car, get medical stuff set up – It was so nerve wracking.

    I’ve been here for over 3 years now & know this place like the back of my hand. :)
    Thanks for the contest!!

  • Jessica Maurer said:

    This book looks like it will be a must-read for me. My first day as an Army Wife was scary. I had never been to Texas before & did not know my way around Fort Hood, plus I knew no one. I mean, it’s the biggest military base in the world! I had to get an ID, stickers for my car, get medical stuff set up – It was so nerve wracking.

    I’ve been here for over 3 years now & know this place like the back of my hand. :)
    Thanks for the contest!!

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    Jessica –
    I could really empathize with the description of your first day at Ft. Hood.

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    Jessica –
    I could really empathize with the description of your first day at Ft. Hood.

  • Phyllis Zimbler Miller said:

    Jessica –
    I could really empathize with the description of your first day at Ft. Hood.

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  • Megret said:

    My dad was assigned to an unaccompanied tour in Panama from 1990-1991, so I know full well how a soldier’s leaving to support his country affects his family. This book sounds terrific.

    Megret
    meg.wilson@gmail.com

  • Megret said:

    My dad was assigned to an unaccompanied tour in Panama from 1990-1991, so I know full well how a soldier’s leaving to support his country affects his family. This book sounds terrific.

    Megret
    meg.wilson@gmail.com

  • Megret said:

    My dad was assigned to an unaccompanied tour in Panama from 1990-1991, so I know full well how a soldier’s leaving to support his country affects his family. This book sounds terrific.

    Megret
    meg.wilson@gmail.com

  • Mary @ Adventures in Mommyland said:

    I’d love to win this book I find women in the army very intriguing. Great giveaway, thanks!

  • Mary @ Adventures in Mommyland said:

    I’d love to win this book I find women in the army very intriguing. Great giveaway, thanks!

  • Mary @ Adventures in Mommyland said:

    I’d love to win this book I find women in the army very intriguing. Great giveaway, thanks!

  • Anita Yancey said:

    I was very nervous on my husband’s first day as a soldier, and on every day after that for twenty years. He is retired now, and I can finally breath again. But I guess I will always be the wife of an army man.

  • Anita Yancey said:

    I was very nervous on my husband’s first day as a soldier, and on every day after that for twenty years. He is retired now, and I can finally breath again. But I guess I will always be the wife of an army man.

  • Anita Yancey said:

    I was very nervous on my husband’s first day as a soldier, and on every day after that for twenty years. He is retired now, and I can finally breath again. But I guess I will always be the wife of an army man.

  • Malcolm Campbell said:

    As it turns out, a lot of spouses could have used this book while there was still a draft.

    When we were drafted, it was so easy to think “this problem is all about me.”

    When we left for Vietnam, we missed those left behind, but how often we overlooked what they were going through because we were so focused on what we were going through.

    Even though military service today is a choice freely made, where one ends up being sent is not. The issues are still there, and I wonder if the best readers for your book are those going off to war who don’t understand how hard it is on those who aren’t.

    Malcolm

  • Malcolm Campbell said:

    As it turns out, a lot of spouses could have used this book while there was still a draft.

    When we were drafted, it was so easy to think “this problem is all about me.”

    When we left for Vietnam, we missed those left behind, but how often we overlooked what they were going through because we were so focused on what we were going through.

    Even though military service today is a choice freely made, where one ends up being sent is not. The issues are still there, and I wonder if the best readers for your book are those going off to war who don’t understand how hard it is on those who aren’t.

    Malcolm

  • Malcolm Campbell said:

    As it turns out, a lot of spouses could have used this book while there was still a draft.

    When we were drafted, it was so easy to think “this problem is all about me.”

    When we left for Vietnam, we missed those left behind, but how often we overlooked what they were going through because we were so focused on what we were going through.

    Even though military service today is a choice freely made, where one ends up being sent is not. The issues are still there, and I wonder if the best readers for your book are those going off to war who don’t understand how hard it is on those who aren’t.

    Malcolm

  • Alice Hansen said:

    I went to the website and learned that there is going to be a sequel to the book – thanks for the contest!

  • Alice Hansen said:

    I went to the website and learned that there is going to be a sequel to the book – thanks for the contest!

  • Alice Hansen said:

    I went to the website and learned that there is going to be a sequel to the book – thanks for the contest!

  • Judith Greenberg said:

    This book looks so interesting. I was not an army wife, but my boyfriend (now my husband of 30+ years) was drafted in the late 60’s and was sent to VietNam. I remember all the worrying about him, and him hitching down from Ft. Ord to come visit me (and all my anti-war friends) in college in Santa Barbara while he was going through basic training. It was such a time of turmoil. I remember him calling me from VietNam one time and all I could do was giggle through the whole conversation.

    The Mrs. Lieutenant website was very interesting. I had no idea some of those organizations existed, like the one that provides Kosher meals for Jewish soldiers.

  • Judith Greenberg said:

    This book looks so interesting. I was not an army wife, but my boyfriend (now my husband of 30+ years) was drafted in the late 60’s and was sent to VietNam. I remember all the worrying about him, and him hitching down from Ft. Ord to come visit me (and all my anti-war friends) in college in Santa Barbara while he was going through basic training. It was such a time of turmoil. I remember him calling me from VietNam one time and all I could do was giggle through the whole conversation.

    The Mrs. Lieutenant website was very interesting. I had no idea some of those organizations existed, like the one that provides Kosher meals for Jewish soldiers.

  • Judith Greenberg said:

    This book looks so interesting. I was not an army wife, but my boyfriend (now my husband of 30+ years) was drafted in the late 60’s and was sent to VietNam. I remember all the worrying about him, and him hitching down from Ft. Ord to come visit me (and all my anti-war friends) in college in Santa Barbara while he was going through basic training. It was such a time of turmoil. I remember him calling me from VietNam one time and all I could do was giggle through the whole conversation.

    The Mrs. Lieutenant website was very interesting. I had no idea some of those organizations existed, like the one that provides Kosher meals for Jewish soldiers.

  • sarah woods said:

    A must it the Ms. Lt. keep it up; many thanks SW

  • sarah woods said:

    A must it the Ms. Lt. keep it up; many thanks SW

  • sarah woods said:

    A must it the Ms. Lt. keep it up; many thanks SW

  • Vicki Wurgler said:

    this sounds very interesting-I read the reviews & comments. I can still remember how my parents took the news when my brother was shipped to Vietnam

  • Vicki Wurgler said:

    this sounds very interesting-I read the reviews & comments. I can still remember how my parents took the news when my brother was shipped to Vietnam

  • Vicki Wurgler said:

    this sounds very interesting-I read the reviews & comments. I can still remember how my parents took the news when my brother was shipped to Vietnam

  • Laura Emerson said:

    My first day as a military spouse was one I will always remember. I went in for a briefing and the Major who was giving it looked straight into our eyes and said “if the Army had wanted there to be spouses they would have issued them”. Stopped me dead in my tracks and I swear I was afraid of even talking for months!

  • Laura Emerson said:

    My first day as a military spouse was one I will always remember. I went in for a briefing and the Major who was giving it looked straight into our eyes and said “if the Army had wanted there to be spouses they would have issued them”. Stopped me dead in my tracks and I swear I was afraid of even talking for months!

  • Laura Emerson said:

    My first day as a military spouse was one I will always remember. I went in for a briefing and the Major who was giving it looked straight into our eyes and said “if the Army had wanted there to be spouses they would have issued them”. Stopped me dead in my tracks and I swear I was afraid of even talking for months!

  • Barbara Baker said:

    The first day as a spouse to a soldier was pretty amusing. There was a lot of paper work signing and passport making since a few days after my husband was going to Germany…I would soon follow about 4 months after. It was a pretty interesting day with weeks to come of the same daily routine.

    Great giveaway, would love to read this book and then pass it on to a few wifes.

  • Barbara Baker said:

    The first day as a spouse to a soldier was pretty amusing. There was a lot of paper work signing and passport making since a few days after my husband was going to Germany…I would soon follow about 4 months after. It was a pretty interesting day with weeks to come of the same daily routine.

    Great giveaway, would love to read this book and then pass it on to a few wifes.

  • Barbara Baker said:

    The first day as a spouse to a soldier was pretty amusing. There was a lot of paper work signing and passport making since a few days after my husband was going to Germany…I would soon follow about 4 months after. It was a pretty interesting day with weeks to come of the same daily routine.

    Great giveaway, would love to read this book and then pass it on to a few wifes.

  • L McLendon said:

    Fell for a Navyman once and still feel the same way to this day.

    I love to read and would welcome this one in home library.

    Thanks for the chance to win.

  • L McLendon said:

    Fell for a Navyman once and still feel the same way to this day.

    I love to read and would welcome this one in home library.

    Thanks for the chance to win.

  • L McLendon said:

    Fell for a Navyman once and still feel the same way to this day.

    I love to read and would welcome this one in home library.

    Thanks for the chance to win.

  • P Miller said:

    My mother would absolutely love this book — not only because one of her favorite TV shows is ARMY WIVES on LIFETIME — but because her name is Phyllis Miller, too!! If I don’t win, I’ll have to buy this for her — and according to the website — the sequel when it comes out too.

  • P Miller said:

    My mother would absolutely love this book — not only because one of her favorite TV shows is ARMY WIVES on LIFETIME — but because her name is Phyllis Miller, too!! If I don’t win, I’ll have to buy this for her — and according to the website — the sequel when it comes out too.

  • P Miller said:

    My mother would absolutely love this book — not only because one of her favorite TV shows is ARMY WIVES on LIFETIME — but because her name is Phyllis Miller, too!! If I don’t win, I’ll have to buy this for her — and according to the website — the sequel when it comes out too.

  • Lily Kwan said:

    I learned that Phyllis Zimbler Miller is the co-author of the Jewish holiday book “Seasons for Celebration”.

  • Lily Kwan said:

    I learned that Phyllis Zimbler Miller is the co-author of the Jewish holiday book “Seasons for Celebration”.

  • Lily Kwan said:

    I learned that Phyllis Zimbler Miller is the co-author of the Jewish holiday book “Seasons for Celebration”.

  • Beth Carpenter said:

    My first day as a military wife was spent on my honeymoon…definitely not G-rated! lol

  • Beth Carpenter said:

    My first day as a military wife was spent on my honeymoon…definitely not G-rated! lol

  • Beth Carpenter said:

    My first day as a military wife was spent on my honeymoon…definitely not G-rated! lol

  • Gloria Dornin said:

    My kind of book!

    weblynx@hotmail.com

  • Gloria Dornin said:

    My kind of book!

    weblynx@hotmail.com

  • Gloria Dornin said:

    My kind of book!

    weblynx@hotmail.com

  • Ashanti White said:

    Good morning, Mrs. Phyllis.

    I was online conducting research about the army (my soon-to-be husband is Captain), and I stumbled upon this book. I plan to order it soon. It sounds like an interesting read; I love the excerpts that I’ve completed.

    Thank you for writing this!

    Ashanti White

  • Ashanti White said:

    Good morning, Mrs. Phyllis.

    I was online conducting research about the army (my soon-to-be husband is Captain), and I stumbled upon this book. I plan to order it soon. It sounds like an interesting read; I love the excerpts that I’ve completed.

    Thank you for writing this!

    Ashanti White

  • Ashanti White said:

    Good morning, Mrs. Phyllis.

    I was online conducting research about the army (my soon-to-be husband is Captain), and I stumbled upon this book. I plan to order it soon. It sounds like an interesting read; I love the excerpts that I’ve completed.

    Thank you for writing this!

    Ashanti White