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		<title>By: cj k</title>
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		<dc:creator>cj k</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Apr 2012 23:16:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Can someone please help me understand how things work when you are first approaching divorce? Like I would have to leave and get my own place...what about money? I would have to leave before the divorce was final and so shouldn&#039;t I get a portion of his bah because we have 3 kids? If i do, how soon will I get it? We have nothing saved and ive stayed at home for 3 yrs, which is how long we&#039;ve been married. I can&#039;t plan on relocating until i know i have money and how much. So i guess wed be separated until it was final. How would that work if I&#039;m in another state? He&#039;s is abusive and therefore need to get out fast and have him not see it coming to much. He knows but I&#039;m scared if i said its over for sure, then he will hurt me, or kids or make thing s extremely difficult for me. He&#039;s already canacled my debit card over a fight..so I can only imagine what he&#039;d do if he knew I was leaving! Another question, can I take our kids out of state? I have no family or friends around hhere and would be forced to move by family in another state. I feel trapped and have no clue what direction to go. Lets say i wantrd tto leave in 2 weeks...how can I when it comes to money and the kids?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Can someone please help me understand how things work when you are first approaching divorce? Like I would have to leave and get my own place&#8230;what about money? I would have to leave before the divorce was final and so shouldn&#8217;t I get a portion of his bah because we have 3 kids? If i do, how soon will I get it? We have nothing saved and ive stayed at home for 3 yrs, which is how long we&#8217;ve been married. I can&#8217;t plan on relocating until i know i have money and how much. So i guess wed be separated until it was final. How would that work if I&#8217;m in another state? He&#8217;s is abusive and therefore need to get out fast and have him not see it coming to much. He knows but I&#8217;m scared if i said its over for sure, then he will hurt me, or kids or make thing s extremely difficult for me. He&#8217;s already canacled my debit card over a fight..so I can only imagine what he&#8217;d do if he knew I was leaving! Another question, can I take our kids out of state? I have no family or friends around hhere and would be forced to move by family in another state. I feel trapped and have no clue what direction to go. Lets say i wantrd tto leave in 2 weeks&#8230;how can I when it comes to money and the kids?</p>
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		<title>By: Noemy</title>
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		<dc:creator>Noemy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Mar 2012 15:19:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>O Contact legal Aíd want 500 for front but total off everything1959 , reduced representation is not free , How they can help us really , were an wt offices we can  go to jack but i not even Now were i can go or with who off his comandérs , i dont Now if he gonna give money o dont Now if he file the Divorce already , i dont Now if his gonna support me , he Didnt support me even be living togeheter , How is i can recieve help, if they just leave us anytime wheneverbthey want to , And do what ever with us , hurting us phisical , verbal an emotionally , really give us help is not posible us has a military auges wont help us , This agresora can not be free an be doing things to other propale riuning others lides How they Did with us . I Need help a defender for all the fraud, alimony, And keep me scared to talk.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>O Contact legal Aíd want 500 for front but total off everything1959 , reduced representation is not free , How they can help us really , were an wt offices we can  go to jack but i not even Now were i can go or with who off his comandérs , i dont Now if he gonna give money o dont Now if he file the Divorce already , i dont Now if his gonna support me , he Didnt support me even be living togeheter , How is i can recieve help, if they just leave us anytime wheneverbthey want to , And do what ever with us , hurting us phisical , verbal an emotionally , really give us help is not posible us has a military auges wont help us , This agresora can not be free an be doing things to other propale riuning others lides How they Did with us . I Need help a defender for all the fraud, alimony, And keep me scared to talk.</p>
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		<title>By: Noemy</title>
		<link>http://armywiveslives.com/2008/04/military-divorce-ask-molly/comment-page-1/#comment-76637</link>
		<dc:creator>Noemy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Mar 2012 14:55:23 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dear molly 

I márried for a militar army soldier an we had 10months living togeheter, on the period of Agustín last year i talk to his 1srg herring, beca use he was not helping me finantial support for food , an others . I lost my baby on agust First i was not having food money , he was at the field, they remove money for his food overthere an here at home not food , but since we got márried 5may 2011 he was not viven support finantial thill he want it ,passing the months i start reciving paper work This Bill is just paíd a half ,me asking him what about that he always hit hisself on his Face head an broke things o always tell him i gonna call the Srg an he start saying to me &quot; if you call , is gonna be your fault i had ruin my career i always were quite it beca use he always had me saying was my fault, an discusions beca use i always found líes that he had cq , where it was not true he take the cq beca use he want it , other he taking a soldier to his home , an i call Srg. An he said he was having a month giving ride, Also we said he was having inspección for cars  Came for work an leave home with civilizan clothes he Came at 10:30pm that Day , i see his car an a gas station an i call an he said i dont Now the street name an go fast to home , before i saw his car i call the Srg. An he told me they were done since 6:00pm always líes , an founding on his computer stuff were he said he delete everybody off exgirlfriends  was not true , i support to Manny things that one Day i just told him i aas gonna leave he push me an hold hard my arm telling me i cant leave him an neighboors At the apartament we were living ear call the cops before Came the cops he tell me you verter not said anything or it Will be your fault they kick me for the army i keep quite it i trust him, believe him he was gonna change , passing all his líes he never want it a fixing , an even he saying to me that he was bipolar an that is the army Now they were gonna quick him beca use he lié , Also about him back, an Now he had a knee i ear him he went out off home talking he was with friends in a motorsquat get hurt an he always talking with his Friends on phone  they gonna give me moré money , This pass friday he took his belongs And leave home, his Srg havent call me , beca use he said he want the Divorce beca use he had time he Didnt Love me, an Also beca use he said i never trust him , when is a big lié he Did Now my password off my bank debit Card an other things i Did give him all the trust giving him oportunities To not lié. Put in me on the situation to keep his líes an alimony against me , he always saying to me he cant had a phone only  call And txt , beca use i had tmobile , he tell me cancel it is to much, i got verizon an free phones for my credit an he Didnt had money to paíd i cancel , Now i had all my credit poor thank he never can make a good payments on time , he start telling me call u bank tell them they can give u a caso advanc$300 , then 300 was not suficiente to him he tell me call $500 i Didnt want it And he make for only , Now i owe thAt , Also on my credit Card he tell me he was playing an then i found is overdraft an fees And late payments that is goin high. I was working i injury for my hand me telling his tell you highers if u can take me to the terapy i had two months since that he said always i for got , tomorrow i Will tell them , i dont had a car is broke , he Didnt leave money for food, i had a paíd the new company phone , by the 28/march/2012 i had a paíd the light Bill, i had a paíd home 540rent i had a paíd a finantial that i get to paíd things he was owe , i had a paíd a Vacuum i had a paíd others things that he was helping me</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear molly </p>
<p>I márried for a militar army soldier an we had 10months living togeheter, on the period of Agustín last year i talk to his 1srg herring, beca use he was not helping me finantial support for food , an others . I lost my baby on agust First i was not having food money , he was at the field, they remove money for his food overthere an here at home not food , but since we got márried 5may 2011 he was not viven support finantial thill he want it ,passing the months i start reciving paper work This Bill is just paíd a half ,me asking him what about that he always hit hisself on his Face head an broke things o always tell him i gonna call the Srg an he start saying to me &#8221; if you call , is gonna be your fault i had ruin my career i always were quite it beca use he always had me saying was my fault, an discusions beca use i always found líes that he had cq , where it was not true he take the cq beca use he want it , other he taking a soldier to his home , an i call Srg. An he said he was having a month giving ride, Also we said he was having inspección for cars  Came for work an leave home with civilizan clothes he Came at 10:30pm that Day , i see his car an a gas station an i call an he said i dont Now the street name an go fast to home , before i saw his car i call the Srg. An he told me they were done since 6:00pm always líes , an founding on his computer stuff were he said he delete everybody off exgirlfriends  was not true , i support to Manny things that one Day i just told him i aas gonna leave he push me an hold hard my arm telling me i cant leave him an neighboors At the apartament we were living ear call the cops before Came the cops he tell me you verter not said anything or it Will be your fault they kick me for the army i keep quite it i trust him, believe him he was gonna change , passing all his líes he never want it a fixing , an even he saying to me that he was bipolar an that is the army Now they were gonna quick him beca use he lié , Also about him back, an Now he had a knee i ear him he went out off home talking he was with friends in a motorsquat get hurt an he always talking with his Friends on phone  they gonna give me moré money , This pass friday he took his belongs And leave home, his Srg havent call me , beca use he said he want the Divorce beca use he had time he Didnt Love me, an Also beca use he said i never trust him , when is a big lié he Did Now my password off my bank debit Card an other things i Did give him all the trust giving him oportunities To not lié. Put in me on the situation to keep his líes an alimony against me , he always saying to me he cant had a phone only  call And txt , beca use i had tmobile , he tell me cancel it is to much, i got verizon an free phones for my credit an he Didnt had money to paíd i cancel , Now i had all my credit poor thank he never can make a good payments on time , he start telling me call u bank tell them they can give u a caso advanc$300 , then 300 was not suficiente to him he tell me call $500 i Didnt want it And he make for only , Now i owe thAt , Also on my credit Card he tell me he was playing an then i found is overdraft an fees And late payments that is goin high. I was working i injury for my hand me telling his tell you highers if u can take me to the terapy i had two months since that he said always i for got , tomorrow i Will tell them , i dont had a car is broke , he Didnt leave money for food, i had a paíd the new company phone , by the 28/march/2012 i had a paíd the light Bill, i had a paíd home 540rent i had a paíd a finantial that i get to paíd things he was owe , i had a paíd a Vacuum i had a paíd others things that he was helping me</p>
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		<title>By: elvira ortiz</title>
		<link>http://armywiveslives.com/2008/04/military-divorce-ask-molly/comment-page-1/#comment-53580</link>
		<dc:creator>elvira ortiz</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Nov 2011 07:46:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>HELLO PLZ PLZ EMAIL A.S.P.C MY &quot; HUSBAND IS SO BAD WITH ME AND THE KIDS&quot; I TRY TO GO TO THE &quot; FAMILY SUPPORT BUT THEY MAKE ME FEEL LIKE I DID SOMETHING TO HIM. ALSO MY KIDS WISH HE GOES BACK OVER SEAS . IT IS HURTS TO HEAR MY KIDS TELL HIM THAT . THE MEN HERE BACK IN BROWNVILLE TX JUST SMILE AND SAY NO MRS. ORTIZ IT IS U. OMG  I DON&#039;T KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE, HE IS GETTING UGLY EVERYDAY AND I HAVE ALOT OF EMAILS .... SO U CAN SEE I&#039;M NOT THE LIER, AGAIN THANK IF U ARE OUT THERE. MRS ELVIRA MACIAS- ORTIZ.    P.S MY HUSBAND IS SGT LAZ, ORTIZ

T</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>HELLO PLZ PLZ EMAIL A.S.P.C MY &#8221; HUSBAND IS SO BAD WITH ME AND THE KIDS&#8221; I TRY TO GO TO THE &#8221; FAMILY SUPPORT BUT THEY MAKE ME FEEL LIKE I DID SOMETHING TO HIM. ALSO MY KIDS WISH HE GOES BACK OVER SEAS . IT IS HURTS TO HEAR MY KIDS TELL HIM THAT . THE MEN HERE BACK IN BROWNVILLE TX JUST SMILE AND SAY NO MRS. ORTIZ IT IS U. OMG  I DON&#8217;T KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE, HE IS GETTING UGLY EVERYDAY AND I HAVE ALOT OF EMAILS &#8230;. SO U CAN SEE I&#8217;M NOT THE LIER, AGAIN THANK IF U ARE OUT THERE. MRS ELVIRA MACIAS- ORTIZ.    P.S MY HUSBAND IS SGT LAZ, ORTIZ</p>
<p>T</p>
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		<title>By: tresorparis</title>
		<link>http://armywiveslives.com/2008/04/military-divorce-ask-molly/comment-page-1/#comment-52396</link>
		<dc:creator>tresorparis</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Nov 2011 04:48:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thank you for providing us with such information. Really interesting stuff guys.  You made some good points there, I will definitely take care of that. I did a search on the topic and found most people will agree with your blog. Anyway, this is terrific information to know. Good job on your research too!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you for providing us with such information. Really interesting stuff guys.  You made some good points there, I will definitely take care of that. I did a search on the topic and found most people will agree with your blog. Anyway, this is terrific information to know. Good job on your research too!</p>
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		<title>By: anderea</title>
		<link>http://armywiveslives.com/2008/04/military-divorce-ask-molly/comment-page-1/#comment-43756</link>
		<dc:creator>anderea</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 14 Oct 2011 08:33:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>We are airforce not army,but I was wondering if you could still help. My husband is active duty and we live in base housing. We are not seperated or anything, but he is telling me that I have to get out of the house because he no longer wants to be together. We have a child and I am pregnant with another. Can he throw me out of military housing for no reason?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>We are airforce not army,but I was wondering if you could still help. My husband is active duty and we live in base housing. We are not seperated or anything, but he is telling me that I have to get out of the house because he no longer wants to be together. We have a child and I am pregnant with another. Can he throw me out of military housing for no reason?</p>
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		<title>By: Brittney.C</title>
		<link>http://armywiveslives.com/2008/04/military-divorce-ask-molly/comment-page-1/#comment-35478</link>
		<dc:creator>Brittney.C</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 17 Sep 2011 21:27:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi, I am wanting a divorce from my husband whom is in the Army I am a stay at home mother of 3 and have no idea to go about this process my husband is getting out of the military probably next year for PTSD it is severe and I am taking verbal and sometimes physical abuse from him and just can&#039;t continue this anymore.

If you could please point me in the direction of how to go about this is would be greatly appreciated.

~Brittney.C</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi, I am wanting a divorce from my husband whom is in the Army I am a stay at home mother of 3 and have no idea to go about this process my husband is getting out of the military probably next year for PTSD it is severe and I am taking verbal and sometimes physical abuse from him and just can&#8217;t continue this anymore.</p>
<p>If you could please point me in the direction of how to go about this is would be greatly appreciated.</p>
<p>~Brittney.C</p>
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		<title>By: Nancy Landon</title>
		<link>http://armywiveslives.com/2008/04/military-divorce-ask-molly/comment-page-1/#comment-25526</link>
		<dc:creator>Nancy Landon</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 25 Jul 2011 12:29:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Molly, My ex-husband is going to put in his retirement packet in December of this year and will retire in March of 2012.  As per our divorce agreement he must pay me 1/2 of his retirement.  When he puts in his paper work will he tell the Army or do I have to send in all of the paper work in order for me to start having the payments directly deposited in to my bank account?  If I have to do it, who do I call and find out what I need to do?

thank you

Nancy Landon</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Molly, My ex-husband is going to put in his retirement packet in December of this year and will retire in March of 2012.  As per our divorce agreement he must pay me 1/2 of his retirement.  When he puts in his paper work will he tell the Army or do I have to send in all of the paper work in order for me to start having the payments directly deposited in to my bank account?  If I have to do it, who do I call and find out what I need to do?</p>
<p>thank you</p>
<p>Nancy Landon</p>
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		<title>By: Candace</title>
		<link>http://armywiveslives.com/2008/04/military-divorce-ask-molly/comment-page-1/#comment-17082</link>
		<dc:creator>Candace</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 02 May 2011 20:49:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Laura - You will find your answers here:

http://www.military.com/benefits/tricare/tricare-eligibility

Your minor child most likely is eligible.  You most likely are not, unless you have been married for 20 years.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Laura &#8211; You will find your answers here:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.military.com/benefits/tricare/tricare-eligibility" rel="nofollow">http://www.military.com/benefits/tricare/tricare-eligibility</a></p>
<p>Your minor child most likely is eligible.  You most likely are not, unless you have been married for 20 years.</p>
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		<title>By: laura</title>
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		<dc:creator>laura</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Apr 2011 17:17:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I want a divorce from my husband who is serving in the U.S Army. We already have had a legal seperation aggreement for 1 year. Our seperation agreement says I am entitled to benefits until our divorce is final. However, I would still like to get health benefits for myself and my daughter for at least one year after our divorce. Will the military do this?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I want a divorce from my husband who is serving in the U.S Army. We already have had a legal seperation aggreement for 1 year. Our seperation agreement says I am entitled to benefits until our divorce is final. However, I would still like to get health benefits for myself and my daughter for at least one year after our divorce. Will the military do this?</p>
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